Dedicated to my Mom!
Alzheimer’s Disease in your family can either break your heart, or one can live with what they have. This disease seems to take away the very person you have known all of your life, but this is not true. My Mom has Alzheimer’s.
It is sad no doubt, but being the kids we were raised to be, we hit it head on. Mom has no memory most of the time, of what happened in the last-minute, yet she can go back as far as you want. This also means she never forgets all you did as a kid, things I would like to forget:>) Mom has never stopped being our mother though.
In the middle of the night she will get up, “hunting her babies.” She wakes my Dad up wanting to know, “Where her babies are?” You know I got to thinking about this.
Alzheimer’s has not taken away my mother. She is just now the mother, who held us when we cried, when we were in diapers. Who stayed awake all night when we were sick, rocking us. Who fed us with a bottle, mashed french fries, and threw them on our high chair tray. Who would have died if she would have ever lost one of us!
So instead of longing for the mother I wish I had today, “I embrace the mother “I” do not remember.”
God Bless, SR
Beautiful post, SR! God Bless.
Hey Teresa,
Thank you! Hope you are feeling better today. I am feeling much better. Have a great day and God Bless, SR
What a beautiful way to look at it. Thanks. I have a friend whose parents both have Alzheimers, and I will share this with her. She gets so discouraged with both of them needing so much. She is an only child, too. We are both going to the coast together for a couple of days, so this is all very timely. Thanks again, and God bless you, SR
Hey Reinkat,
Thanks for comment! Tell your friend we live in her world, instead of making her live in ours. We “embrace” her world. That does not mean we like it or do not wish that it was not different, but she does have a world. My mother is in there somewhere. She still loves us, even though she forgets we are grown. Mainly her world is in the “past.” So we go back there with her. Truly, she can remember things, which we have long forgot. When she says something about it, we remember with her. Usually they are very happy moments. For the things that are just off of the wall, we laugh with her. One thinks this disease does not give you “choices,” but it does. Yes, she is needy, but I have to remember, at one time in my life so was I. I would not be here today, if she had not of seen to those needs. I was a helpless baby. Most of the time that is where our life is with her now. Again thanks for comment and enjoy the coast. Wish I was going to be with you! God Bless, SR
Thanks, SR. Your response to your mother’s condition is very wise.
My friend’s mother’s disease has advance considerably, very rapidly in the past 6 months. She is having a hard time and needs much prayer. May your mother’s medications slow the progress and allow you all to enjoy many moments of fun and joy.
Hey Reinkat,
Good to have you back! I am so sorry regarding your friend and her mother. Mom was the mother of school kids yesterday. Will always pray for them. Thanks for comment and God Bless, SR
Precious! I’m glad you can face it head on and enjoy what you have! Lifting prayers for you and your family!
God Bless you, SR!
Hey Deidre,
Thanks for comment. I also thank you for the prayers for me and my family, as they are so needed. Yes, there are the enjoyable moments with AD. Those are the moments one has to go to and live with. Again thanks for prayers. God Bless, SR
My dad had vascular dementia, very similar, my prayers are with you & yours.
Hey Geloruma,
Mom started out with “vascular dementia.” I know you went through it also. I just keep a smile on my face and in my heart. Thank you for your prayers as we need them. Thanks for comment and God Bless, SR